Thursday, 28 November 2013

I just don't give a damn

I will write this blog and spill my thoughts regardless of those that think its a pity trip or others that will  think it's all bull shit!

I feel like crap day in and day out! It is frustrating to wake up and face the day feeling like a bag of shit!
I came to know a young lady recently and it's her I think of when I write this! Sometimes I can be all nicey, nice but right now I just want to say no one gets it NO ONE gets it at all! Bits and pieces of what I put up with maybe but not this whole package I deal with on a daily basis!

The young lady I speak of was in a bad accident years ago ! She doesn't know but I prayed and prayed for that little girl and now she faces life in a wheel chair!  I thought to myself you know I really have nothing to complain about compared to this lady nothing! I contemplated all her hardships all the inconveniences and upsets presented to her on a regular daily basis! How down right selfish of me to think I should feel any sorrow or any strife with my few inadequacies!

 Then Somewhere in the back of my head I heard her ! Ah ***k it. Let it go we all get sick of our own bull shit ! It doesn't matter what form it's in if it seems worse for you than it does for me ***k it!
Let It ALL OUT!

SO I will I am so tired of pretending I am strong or feel good at all I don't ***k it !I hurt I'm dizzy I'm confused and barely feel like myself! I'm sad and I'm angry I can't walk without feeling like I'm falling!

I don't eat this and that or drink this or that so I can feel better well bull shit! Tired of trying massages, acupuncture ,cranial sacral, herbal remedies ,herbs vitamins natural paths reflexologist ,psychics doctor specialists meditation relaxation yoga and all over 30 years
I am sick dammit and ***king sick of it! I've had 24 hour flu for nearly 30 years.
Somedays might be better than others in reality it is when I am stronger and better at hiding it!
I do damn well for what I've been dealt with and I am proud of my many accomplishments .I work on accepting things for how they are and then some times when it hurts too much and it's hard to bear I  just say ***k it!





Tomorrow will be better.

Friday, 15 November 2013

We have had a pile of snow last year???   It is that kind of winter that can take alot of wildlife out.  Grouse , partridges and the song birds that stick around find it impossible to scratch through the snow and ice to get to anything that might remain nutritious. When you live in the city you have no concept of how wildlife struggles to survive the long cold gruelling prairie winters.

I happen to be fortunate enough to be able to assist the deer that live near me.

We are hunters and have a thriving taxidermy business.  Wildlife is what puts the bread and butter on our family's tables. Hunting provides meats to go along with the bread and butter..... We in ways are obligated to look after what we feel is a gift from nature.

THE Saskatchewan Environment Department will tell you different. DO NOT feed the deer!  Leave it to nature !!! The strong will survive and the weak will die...It is all a part of nature...

I beg to differ......What is natural about how our deer have to forage these days?

When I first came to be a hunter I spent alot of time in the field in the fall. Crops would ripen with the sun and it was a good fall if you got your crop off by beginning of October. AS I would walk to my tree stand I could see life everywhere in the field I crossed.If it wasn't harvested the deer were nearby waiting for dusk so they could sneak in and get the last few bites of the nutritional crop before it met the combine. If it had been harvested there would be lots of green , weeds, regrowth whatever for the deer, and other wildlife to munch on.  Life was abundant in the fall of those times.

Now the crops are dessicated by mid August and harvested by the end of August. After the crop comes off the fields they are sprayed to combat weed growth and the other plants take the hit too! The goal to kill any living plant in the field.
BY the time the snow falls the deer that used to live off the fields in what was their "store up" time of year have had to resort to eating in ditches and farmyards. There are slim pickings for our wildlife these days.......

There are many of us that hunt and do taxidermy that feed the deer. I am thankful to all of you that do. I have seen deer so skinny come into our yard in February that they look close to death, They don't eat much but you would be surprised how a cup of feed a day can carry that deer through to spring.  February and March are the hardest months for the deer in a winter like this. Without nutrition all winter they start to weaken.If only branches and dead grass are available  they eat it to fill them selves but there is little nutrition and they start to die.

There isn't a deer in my yard that will die from starvation... Not when they know the food God will show up and spread a little food amongst them.....And then there are the deer that know if they just put their noses to the window they are likely to get a handful of ambrosia apples .  There are alfalfa bales by the barn, lentils in the barn, sunflower seeds in the shed and lots of apples (for now) on the table.


Wednesday, 13 November 2013

Grief

Grief      Good grief.    Grief!   I never really understood the importance of grieving! I knew it was what I was supposed to do after someone died . Grieve. Feel sad ,grow past ,get over it!
Grief is so much more than that!
I never realized that all losses we experience no matter how slight create an opportunity to kick start the grieving process !  Losing a loved one is an obvious trigger but do we stop and take the time to appreciate the process our body needs to go through?
If we neglect to allow the process all of our losses can add up and build into a huge mass of unresolved grief!
Ever broke a finger nail to find yourself  bawling or maybe cried yourself to pieces at the funeral of some one you " just"knew!
That's your minds ability to reach in when presented with a new loss to bring up unresolved grief  you have yet to process!
I attended a 10 week grief processing group! It has been life changing! To review my life and the many losses I experienced without recognizing them as such has provided me with a new found ability to do just that!
Losses come in many shapes and sizes and its important to recognize them for what they are and to follow through with the task of processing each !
First accept the reality of the loss and its impact on us!
Second let yourself experience the pain of grief!
Third adjust to the new environment/ life that is changed due to the loss has caused!
Lastly to reinvest the energy into life, loosen ties to the loss. And transform the loss into gain/value..
The 11 women that were in this group were some of the most compassionate and caring I have ever met!
I think it's important to connect with those that will be compassionate and understanding through this time!

  So I salute GRIEf.  And my new ability to understand it as well as access it!

Take Good Care!

Monday, 1 July 2013

WHy NOT?

I was asking my self today ...why haven't you wrote a blog about depression?  I replied because people just don't get it . I will likely be judged....There will be a few that relate either through their own experience or they know someone that has been visited by the dark cloud or perhaps they think they were depressed ....

Then there are those ....and it surprises me how many there still are that look at depression along with other mental illnesses as a way to get attention or that it is a character flaw with comments such as"How can they be like that?" or "Why are they acting like that to get pity?" "They could snap out of it if they just would get over it!"

I have been too long diagnosed with a mental illness to take these comments to heart but it is phrases like these that can really be harmful to the newly diagnosed or the undiagnosed... Depression hurts , depression is real and depression is lonely.

I have had many supports in my life.. Good friends  family members.....my mom . They are all to be thanked for listening to me and being there for me when I reached out..That is one of the things we are told to do ....as a depressed person ...reach out ....Sometimes people are deep enough in their own stuff they can't be there for me and ....I always understand that. I have had the rare occasion where I had to pick up the phone and cry to a complete stranger because there was no one there for me ....for one reason or another....it is so important to talk...talking....helps stop the over thinking.....most times.....when it doesn't that is when its time to go get professional help.... cant handle it alone.....

Psychiatrists are all pill pushing idiots as far as I am concerned ...I have been very fortunate to have had the same counsellor for over 23 years.....off and on....   when I need her...She has inspired me and I (she tells me ) have inspired her......She taught me how to cut depression up into little pieces and then look at all the parts and work on them one at a time...Depression is so hard to beat if you try beat "depression" It is much better to look at the things that have brought you to the point of greyness and sadness and hopelessness......to the place where nothing seems hopeful or worth it
Those pieces can be life events ,,,,death,,,,moves,,,,births,,,,,,losses,,,change......
or they can be illness, a cell phone that wont work or a day that nothing can go right....or maybe just thoughts...thinking wrong.....stinky thinking,,,,negative thoughts .....unable to see the good side of anything.......It is like the only thing your ears want to hear are the nasty things   and the only thing your eyes can pick out are the awful things....and the only thing your mind can conjure up are your guilty things your weaknesses and your tragedies........how terrible you are and how horrible your life is....

......I taught her that depression isn't always text book variety...I showed her how willing I was to be free of the darkness and how I didn't like to be caught up in it...How lonely I could feel and how empowering it was to know I wasn't alone I also gave her reason to believe that maybe medication is necessary...... .
She retires this year......I will miss her.....

It sucks that anyone would see me or any of us suffering as anything less than somebody that is sick......

It is an illness.....


There is a chemical imbalance that happens regardless of how be it the negative thoughts the life events or many other situations that create it......it is no different than a malfunctioning pancreas..heart...liver.....kidney......it is your brain.....your brain is an organ....it can get sick just like any other organ.....some brains are more sensitive...some people are more sensitive......

If I could have lived without experiencing depression I would gladly have done it..
Wasn't in the cards for me...

I am proud of all the times I have come out on top after sinking so low.... 

IF you know someone that is depressed ...listen without judging.......visit without advising,,,,,,,,,smile while wiping a tear away.................share your own weaknesses .....pass on a positive affirmation.......take them for an ice cream or maybe for a walk in a park.........laugh even if they don't......cry if it makes you .....remind them of the good things the good times ...........and remember..................a hug makes a great band aid for a broken mind.....

"It is difficult to fight the enemy when the enemy is your own mind"





Wednesday, 1 May 2013

I am Lonely

Why is it so hard to recognize and admit loneliness? 

Some times I crave to be alone.....longing to be walking along a hiking trail with no sounds except those that nature provides. Lying out under the dark moonless sky only lit with the twinkling stars ...curled up in the bed between cool crisp clean sheets after tidying the whole house..... me and a solar light that flickers like a candle and in the distance a coyote or two yipping in excitement...
or even to find that space in my own mind so that no matter who or what surrounds me I am where I want to be....alone...

But then there are those times I feel so alone. So lonely . I can be out for a walk with three cats 4 dogs and a yard full of deer, sitting with family enjoing a meal, driving down the highway singing a song with hubby, in a crowd of strangers at a theatre..... yet  so alone....

Lonely ....can see me sad, scared , lost , anxious, depressed, hopeless
or being alone can enlighten me, comfort me, renew me and revive me.

Tonight I am Lonely and I don't want to be......

I have a shield around me one that is preventing anyone or anything from entering my space.......my being my essence..

Is this a choice? I am not certain that it is....

I am lonely tonight and for now that is ok.

 

 

You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with.

Wednesday, 20 March 2013

Good Bye One Eye

This Winter is miserable and relentless...I realized today when my daughter-in-law told me of how her normal tendancy to be scared, travelling on the awful highway so many times this winter  turned to anger, that this is how I am feeling to . I am sick and tired of this winter but most of all I am angry!


The fawns in the mule deer herd in my yard  get weaker by the day. There has been no break for them and the prairie wool grass that provides so much nutrition lies buried deep in the snow. The snow is deep everywhere . Not just in the banks but everywhere they walk the snow is deep and hard.

The fawn One Eye is weak tonight. So weak he couldn't help but allow me to stroke his ears and pet his wee head...I could feel the little antlers that will never grow into  majestic tall racks because tonite I know in my heart One Eye will die.

As he lay on top of the snow against the row of caraganas,  just out of reach of  the brutal force of the wind, he watched and waited for me as I approached . I was able to look closer at the infected right eye and realized the infection had grown into his eyeball.. His other eye looked up at me with a look of hopelessness.. Rubbing my hand across his body it amazed me how tiny this little animal that had been relying on me to give him his special food really was. Maybe 25 pounds....How could a deer that we have fed all winter be lying on the ground infront of me starving to death?  He had been eating well ...Here he was......skin and bone literally. HIs one good eye had no glimmer in it tonight... no hope....

The winds were howling and the temperature falling as I debated what to do.....SUGAR water...I rushed into the house the Vet had said their blood sugar drops and that is when they seizure and then they die .....I mixed up a bottle of sweet water and Tom and I decided to load him into the sleigh and put him in the barn out of the wind ...out of the cold ..and only hope he would  survive the storm.....

I approached him from one side Tom from the other... AS trusting as he was, with what energy he had he jumped up and staggered through the trees. He had eaten some nuggets before lying down and it had seemed to help him. He then gained momentum and  made it to the trees on the east side of the house.

There I was bottle of sugar water in hand  following him......doing my best to try save his life....
After basically following him in circles for a half hour I decided if the storm didn't kill him I was going to  by pursuing him...I was hurting him more than I was helping him.

One eye had the will to be wild....this  over rode his trust in me and and an possible chance of me helping him. Like the other fawn that died he was at a point where he was too strong to receive help yet so close to being weak enough to die.

I have no doubt One Eye will die tonight...Part of me wants to get a big blanket and find him and cover him up and be with him.....either until morning and move him to the barn or until....he dies...

The there is this other part of me ...that looked deep into that one good eye tonight and with love and as much understanding any human could possibly possess I saw that remained a will to be wild . The will to be wild no matter how vulnerable and at risk as is all wildlife is as it exists in our world.

This winter the deer are being dealt a nasty blow from mother nature ......

One Eye ....good bye....

This taming spoken of here by the fox to The Little Prince is important to consider when attaching ones self to a wild animal..... I have a lot to reconsider....

"Just that," said the fox. "To me, you are still nothing more than a little boy who is just like a hundred thousand other little boys. And I have no need of you. And you, on your part, have no need of me. To you I am nothing more than a fox like a hundred thousand other foxes. But if you tame me, then we shall need each other. To me, you will be unique in all the world. To you, I shall be unique in all the world....”
Antoine de Saint-Exupéry




You become responsible, forever, for what you have tamed.”
Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, The Little Prince
 
It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; What is essential is invisible to the eye. Le Petit Prince

Good Night
Stay Warm


Wednesday, 24 October 2012

JUST CATS???


OH how I despise those four words especially when they are directed at me in reference to my Cats.

My cats are maybe "Just Cats" . They are well known for their hunting ability , and leaving evidence with adoration on my doorstep. Yes nothing as wonderful to step out into than some mouse or bird innerds....Yes the cats. They also sleep in the lawn chairs (well ofcourse I put blankets on them for the little darlings). They run under the cars with me shreeking STOP. Sneak in the house when ever they get the chance. They can scare up a flock of Prairie Chickens and put fear in their souls with no hesitation. They stalk their prey as well as their friends the dogs...crouching "invisibly" in the grass as we hike along...only to be greeted with a lick from Piper,,,or growl and nudge from Ellie. Cats yes "Just Cats"....they arent dirty as most claim....my cats are very clean. They arent stupid at all I have trained them to do many tricks.....well a few....but the thing I admire most is their complete love of .....food at 5 pm...Yes look out it is a mad dash to the food shelf with the food God approaching can of wet food in hand .....and yes they like a little pet as they eat...and they purr in gratititude...

It is the time of year where I become concerned for the "Just Cats". It is getting cold and the wind really can be cold...OH they will say for goodness sake they are Just Cats...throw out a cardboard box with a blanket and a big bowl of dry food they will be fine after all they are JUST CATS..

Well my cats have a two level insulated condo . They have more straw and blankets to cuddle up in not to mention the outdoor light we installed inside last year for warmth, oh did I mention the electric pet pad in the lower level. The igloo is the winter feeding station....with a heated water bowl and a large feeder full of dry food(unless the racoons visit and clean us out) I do my best to make life as comfortable as possible for the cats. THE heating pad only goes on at 25 below the light at 15 below.
It seems to be working ...

You see my cats might be JUST CATS but I am one cat lady that loves her cats and that is JUST That!!